I am suffering from anxiety attacks, I just feel like my stomach is in knots and I’m jittery and worried, and feel sick.
My ex-b/f welcomed me into his group and basically my social life revolved around him and friends in the midlands. Then my best friend moved up there, and now two of my other friends have moved up there. So I’ve not just lost my boyfriend, I’ve lost a good group of friends (well, not ‘lost’ them, but won’t be seeing them anywhere near as often), so feeling a little isolated.
I have some good friend in London, but don’t feel like it’s ever gonna be the same. I felt like I belonged and that I was happy for the first time in my life. Now it’s all changing again and I feel sick about it!
I know the answer is to widen my social circle … But how do you do that? It’s not easy…. I just want to crawl into a hole, but I know that’s the worst possible thing i could do and that I need to get out and meet people.
Any tips to stop the anxiety in the meantime?
hi there, firstly you need to compartmentalise the two issues firstly deal with “panic attacks” and the best way to succesfully Free yourself of this condition is to go back by way of writing down when they started!
What made them start! and why do i live in fear of another episode ( panic attack) now the reason you will have success gaining your life back is because be writing it enables you to identify with more clarity the What, Where and Why factors..
The most dis-empowering about Panic Attacks is the mindset that it creates whereby you feel like you have no control.
And you do the whole Panic ( anxierty condition) is created by you and it will pass, over a period of time (usually half an hour) per episode.
Write everything down from today on! to do with this thing that is known as “it ” the name is manufactured by the very premise that “it” is you losing control for a period of time “it” is has no reality only the reality that you give “it”.
Also start from today saying to friends etc that you are recovering from “it” take away “it” control over your life…
You created “it” and you can destroy and gain your life back..
Meditation is a good tool also, reason being you slow your mind down from thoughts when “it” comes and you can”t clearly think of one thing to concentrate on ( jumbled thought patterns).kick in.
if you feel really anxious it”s the ( fight or flight ) kicking in read your notes from past.
Also link in with a support group as there are many survivors of “it”.
Put the social stuff on hold interms of priorities as you need to get “it” out of your life..
Stay well clear or Benzo”s (Valium etc) they will turn “it” into a reality..
Good luck you can beat this “it” has had its Day..
on: 26th June 07